AITA : 'It's too late now' : Step Monster Adopts Three Children, Erases Memories of Their Real Mother as Father Stands By and Lets Her; Years Later, They Propose Family Therapy

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elina lee
Mar 28, 2023 12:00 PM EDT

It truly blows our minds the way people will have kids and then do everything in their power to not care for them. We don't know about you guys, but we thought that being a parent means responsibility and accountability but apparently, that's not always the case. 

See, a lot of the time, the parents in question are like children themselves and are unable to comprehend the idea of prioritizing their kids. They'll prioritize just about anything and everything before their offspring - work, dating, divorce… you name it, but never their kids. 

Welp, today we're bringing you a story of exactly just that. A parent (father) who chose to put his new wife above his own children. Reading this story made our hearts hurt for these kids. They already lost one parent but after all this mess, looks like they lost the second one too. Have a read for yourself and let us know your thoughts. 

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  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/Salt-File-8888 19 hours ago AITA for telling my father and his wife that it's too late to compromise and I don't want to engage in therapy with them?
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    Font - I'm 16f and I have two brothers 18m and 14m. We lost our mom when we were 3, 5 and 7 and our dad remarried when we were 4, 6 and 8. It felt like they had known each other about a month when they got married but it possible they were together longer. About a month after mom died dad was in a widows and widowers group and that's how he met his wife, Beth.
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    Font - Beth lost her husband and had no kids. When they got married they sat us down and told us Beth was going to adopt us. My older brother and I objected. But we were ignored. Around that time we heard some extended family try to talk them out of it as well, saying we would be taken care of if anything happened to our father, no need to go through with the adoption. Beth told them she was our mother now and the adoption needed to happen. We spoke to a social
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    How did that dad think it would be okay to ignore his children's opinions in this serious matter??? Absolutely baffling 

  • 04
    Font - worker and the judge before the adoption happened. Initially their request was rejected based on our conversations. But then they came up with a story that we'd have nobody else to take care of us and our family had already said they wouldn't raise us if anything happened to dad and it was done.
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    Font - Older brother and I never liked it, younger brother didn't really no any better but by age 7 was saying he wished he wasn't adopted as well. He could have been copying us. But he says he really feels that way so...
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    Font - We have new birth certificates ever since the adoption and her name is in the place of mother. Found that out when I gave my mom's name in school one day and had to bring in my birth certificate and saw Beth's name. My brothers had no idea that had happened either. It pissed off my older brother so much that he told Beth he hoped she would die and we could be adopted again since she was far more replaceable than mom. That incident made Beth
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    Font - than mom. That incident made Beth and our father put him into therapy with them. That lasted for two years until he moved out last year. He then asked our maternal grandparents to adopt him since he couldn't find a way to reverse the adoption.
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    Font - Recently Beth and my father have figured out that I want to do the same and so does my younger brother. Beth broke down and said she just wanted the chance to be a mother and wanted us to love her back. My father suggested they do therapy with me and my brother (separate sessions with each of us) and that we try to work out a compromise. I told him it was too late for that. They already erased
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  • 09
    Font - mom and nothing they could say would make me feel different about what they did. I told Beth we were never her children and she would need to accept the fact she was never going to be loved back. My father told me that wasn't true. We could still work something out, like have our grandparents adopt us but call him and Beth mom and dad and let them still be parents and grandparents in the future.
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    Font - When I said there was no room for compromise and it was too late they said I was being so unfair. AITA?
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    Font - bunnyhop2005 · 18 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA, but your father and Beth sure are. Beth is the kind of stepmom that gives stepparents a bad name. She wanted to adopt you and your brothers because she "just wanted the chance to be a mother," so she hijacked the three of you and promptly erased your mom's memory.
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    Font - But your father is even worse because he allowed all of this to happen over your wishes. And so quickly after your mom's death. It just sounds like he wanted to get a replacement mom in the door as quickly as possibly so the family could regain a semblance of normalcy, but in the process he prioritized Beth's agenda over his kids' feelings and wellbeing. Mother-child bonds and love can't be forced, and this is what he tried to do.
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    Font - Salt-File-8888 OP 18 hr. ago ● Yes. Also the fact he came up with the lie that none of our family would take care of us if he died, and we'd end up in foster care. My brother and I heard with our own ears that they would take care of us. My dad wanted it to be Beth and knew we wouldn't choose her.
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    Font - HumanityIsBizarre 16 hr. ago Legally change your surname to your mothers maiden name, so you will all legally have a link to her that way and this also removes you from your father.
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    Font - karinnaivan 17 hr. ago NTA. It seems your dad moved on too, too fast, but what do I know? Maybe he really needed someone to take care of you guys alongside him. But they went against your wishes and you guys knew your mom or have some memories of her. It's unfair that they took her off of your birth certificate and replaced your mother with Beth. I find that to be so disrespectful to the person who brought you into this world. And I find that so disrespectful on Beth's part to even sugges
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